Want More Confidence?

flyhcoaches
Jun 21, 2023
3 min read

By Denna

"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."

– Glennon Doyle Melton

June is the time of year known for Pride Month, Alzheimer’s & Brain Awareness Month, and PTSD Awareness Month. All three very good causes to honor and bring awareness to.

Pride Month: A time to celebrate and honor the LGBTQ+ community and their accomplishments, along with recognizing their ongoing struggle.

Alzheimer’s & Brain Awareness Month: Did you know that more than 55 million people suffer from Alzheimer's or another form of dementia? This is a time to help raise awareness around these struggles.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Awareness Month: Those with PTSD suffer with intense reactions to reminders of trauma they have suffered. This is a time to recognize the importance and challenges of this debilitating condition.

As I sit reflecting on these causes, it has me thinking about one thing those experiencing these hurdles may have in common: lack of confidence.

With everything that life has to throw at us, it can slowly tick away at our confidence.

Causing us to hide when we were meant to be proud.

Causing us to not trust ourselves when we should be standing strong.

Causing us to feel misunderstood when all we are looking for is safety and belonging.

Different life events can cause us all to struggle with confidence. And at the heart of it is low self-esteem. Feelings of inadequacy. Fear of making mistakes. Fear of letting others down. Fear of the world around us.

However, confidence works on a scale. If it begins with you for not having the confidence to face your struggles, I want you to envision that scale. Believe that you can move that marker. Inch it forward towards discovering your confidence. Then continually inch it forward towards thriving with confidence!

Take a few moments each day and check in with yourself. Reflect on your day and how you’re feeling.

Take this opportunity to let your vulnerable side out for a bit. And I know it might feel uncomfortable. After all this is not a side we like to let out or share with others so easily. It can also be difficult to find the words to express yourself. Difficult to express your feelings, your wants, or your needs.

But it is critical to our overall wellbeing to learn how to listen to ourselves.

Each day, take a moment, sit in silence, and tune into how you’re feeling. This will bring more awareness to your own thoughts and emotions and can give you powerful insights about yourself.

With this, we start to build trust in our own judgements and that carries forward into building confidence.

What more ways to help grow your confidence:

😎 Be kind to yourself. Watch for times when you talk down to yourself. Do you tell yourself things like you’re not good enough, you don’t know enough, or that nobody cares? Go on a Word Diet! Try to remove these phrases from the words you use with yourself.

😎 “I am” Statements: At the end of each day, say 5 positive things about yourself. Since you’re already going on a Word Diet, you’ll need some fuel to replace what you’ve taken out. Fuel your brain with statements that recognize where you kick butt in life!

😎 Challenge yourself. Find a small goal that stretches you just a little bit. Try a new exercise class, learn a new skillset, or find a social occasion to attend. Each time you accomplish one of your goals, you’ll get a boost to your self-esteem which will help grow your confidence over time.

“It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.”

–Edmund Hillary